But does he have to be MEAN?????

Sure, he's gone all week working sooooo hard. Sure the flights are nasty. Sure he has only 2 days to see the kids. But does he have to be mean? does he really expect me to cancel all their activities so they can stay home & hang out with him? Saturday, all day practically, was the Christmas Fair at the kids' school. He spent more time WITH them there than I did since I was working there. But he didn't feel good...he was tired..he went home for a nap. This is MY problem? Then Rebecca had a basketball game. Yep, *I* scheduled it when he was there just so I could ruin his day & mess up his preferred dinner time. I'm slick that way...inside line to CYO & their scheduling. The game was late because they overscheduled so we had to hang out for about an hour. All he could do was grump about how late it was getting & WHEN were we going to eat (the game was at 7pm instead of 6) instead of enjoying some extra time with the girls. BAH.

Today Rebecca skipped choir/mass. No thanks from Daddy there. We went for breakfast then Rebecca went to her Nutcracker rehearsal (12-3 sort of) & I took Nicole to Toys 'R Us to get a birthday gift. She also picked out a Christmas gift for Daddy & decided on Rebecca's which we went to Michael's to get. Very productive hour. We went home, wrapped, peed & left again for the party which was at 2:15. I had to leave the party to get Rebecca from rehearsal then go back & collect Nicole. The girls wanted to play but I dragged them out because we were going to get a Christmas tree, have dinner (soup I had made so we'd have a quick dinner this weekend since I knew we would be busy) then take Daddy to the airport. We got home about 4:45. He was mad. "I wish I had known when you were coming home so I could have taken a cab to the airport." "We don't have time to get a Christmas tree because I have to leave for the airport soon." "I don't want another half baked dinner like last week." (the big turkey dinner I made which came out fabulous, too bad the siding guy was here so we couldn't eat it)

Then he says, "Should I just call a cab & get out from underfoot?" Nicole said," yes." I choked back a laugh then told her that wasn't a nice thing to say. She continued to tell him to take a cab until he told her to stop saying mean things to him. *chuckle*

"I don't recall saying you were underfoot" I commented, "What? You didn't get enough attention this weekend?"
"I didn't get ANY" he said. Me neither, btw. We skipped the tree & I heated the soup, sliced some bread, set the table & called everyone to dinner. His comment was, "eat fast, another meal at the last minute." HONESTLY. I'm sitting there in tears while he yells at Nicole who is trying to butter her bread but accidentally dragging her sleeve through her soup. So she leaves in tears. He says to me, "What NOW?" (I mumbled nothing)

So......it's all about HIM? I think not. It's about the girls. They are busy. I'd like to stay home & do nothing on the weekend. Unfortunately, it JUST DOESN'T HAPPEN. And he's taking that personally. WTF??? The girls did NOT want to go to the airport. But we went & Coli fell asleep on the way. They were both were asleep by the time we got home at 6:15. Coli cried when she realized daddy had been left at the airport. *sigh*

But he hasn't asked for a copy of their school pictures. He didn't ask to see Rebecca's Nutcracker costume. He did lamely ask how school was going - kind of looking for small talk or something. OMG. Why does he have to say so many cruel, hurtful, belittling, nasty comments? My best just isn't good enough for him. I cried my eyes out tonight. And now Rebecca's reading this over my shoulder instead of doing her homework. Life sucks & then the alarm goes off AGAIN. Thank God we're all healthy.